love

So I got Walk the Line in my easter basket - which I was VERY excited about because I love that movie and I love Reese. My bro got King Kong and since I had never seen the movie, I was REALLY excited to watch it.
I was bummed out though because I didn't love it. I usually love the whole love movie thing, but not this one. I liked a lot of it, but I sort of felt like it was Jurassic Park with a big monkey. It did bring up a few questions I have about love and relationships though. So here they are:

Question #1:
Can you make someone love you? Can you love someone into loving you?
King Kong fell in love with Ann. Ann fell in love with King Kong (which was really weird for me). It got me thinking about if we could make someone love us by loving them and showing that love for them. King Kong saved Ann's life numerous times. He protected her, cared for her and they had some sort of connection. Ann loved him back. I kept trying to imagine being Ann, but I couldn't imagine loving a big monkey. I did love how Jack Driscoll loved Ann though! But anyways, I wonder if Kong loved Ann into loving him. Is it possible?
For example, my friend has this guy who has always been around. He seems to be totally just in love with her. Her family loves him, her daughter loves him, he would do ANYTHING in the world for her - and does, but she's just like, oh he's a great friend. Even though she has a boyfriend now, I always think in the back of my mind that if this guy continually pursues her, she'll break and realize how much in love with him she is.
One of my YL leaders in high school had this guy that was really into her. She was always like, eh, no, it won't work - I'm not really attracted to him - I keep telling him no when he asks me out. But now they are married. He pursued her until she realized, wow, I really do love this guy.
Now, I'm not talking about some weird stalkerish infatuation. I'm talking about if you know someone is truly in love with you, will there come a point that you feel drawn to them too? I've never seen it not happen - I'm not saying it doesn't, I've just never seen it.
I kind of wonder this about God too. I go back and forth about being a Calvinist because there are some parts that I am in agreement with 100% but other parts that are a lot harder for me to stomach. But if we are really exposed to how much God loves us, why would we not love him back? Do we have the option to resist that love? It's this overwhelming, amazing, powerful thing to be loved like that. I think it can also be overwhelming and amazing to be loved by a man or woman like that. But, is it irresistible?

This kind of leads to question #2:
Why are people scared to love and to be loved?
I don't know exactly how I feel about this statement: 'Tis better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all."
I used to live by this statement. I still think I kind of do, but I'm wondering if subconsciously I don't because of being burnt in the past. Life is about putting your heart out there and loving someone no matter what the outcome might be. We don't know what the outcome is - so why are we so hesitant? I think we miss out on so much good because we don't risk. But that's the point - it's risky. We're afraid of getting hurt, we're afraid of losing that person, we're afraid of our own feelings, we're afraid of the pain that breaks us if stuff doesn't work out. But what if our fears are keeping us from something amazing? What is it does work out?
I do NOT have all the answers. I am saying these things right now, but do I live this out in my life? Not all the time. Not recently. I am just really interested in everyone's thoughts on the subject...

It's scary stuff this love business - but I TRUST it can be greater than we can imagine.